The Cigarette Monologue

I feel so hot in your hands

I feel so cold in your lungs

My presence gets anyone on a high



My flame throws you off

My icy feeling cools you down

Piece of me keeps you collected



You inhale me in

You exhale me out

I smoulder in between your lips



You put a part of me inside your mouth

You place a portion of me in between your fingers

And dispose me after finishing three quarters of me



I could keep you sane

I could keep you high

You could quit on me

But I’ll never quit on you


T.Y.V.M.

Memories are these powerful things that hold us down with what we are today. Without these memories, the past wouldn’t have been colorful and you wouldn’t have been what you are today. With that said, I believe all of us should be thankful of whatever happened to us in the past – if we ever got hurt, got bullied, or got our hearts broken.

You should be thankful for having experienced bullying.

That kid who used to push you around the school playground, that kid who used to ask for your lunch, leaving you hungry the whole day, that kid who would copy your homework and would willfully not give it back to you just because s/he feels like doing so – be thankful to them because you have experienced troubles in your early life. You have experienced resentment, anger, and hatred but at the same time you have learned to forgive them. At the early stage of your life you have been endowed with the ability to forgive people. I am not saying that one should be passive but the capability of forgiving people is not an easy task as understanding and tolerance are not for everyone. The bullying you have experienced is probably a blessing as you now know what not to do to people if you don’t want to hurt them and be hated by them their whole lives.

You should be thankful for having experienced being broke.

If you haven’t experienced being broke (even just a bit), then you haven’t experienced life. You will never know how to spend money until you have nothing left. That phase of your life when you don’t have sufficient cash for your needs will definitely strike you hard in your head and will teach you how to handle money the next time you have it. You should now be able to think of how to properly utilize your money rather than how to spend it!

You should be thankful for that person who broke your heart.

Personally, I look up to people who have experienced real heartache. The way you pick yourself up after s/he left you in pieces and having your heart feeling shattered is a sure fire way of getting to know yourself better. There is also always a certain level of maturity that you reach every time you experience your heart being wrenched down by someone that used to matter a lot to you – and you used to matter to him/her too. Be thankful to whoever crushed your heart because you are now stronger – stronger in the sense that the next time this kind of heartache happens in your life, you will know what to do and you now know better than to mope around and stop dealing with life. You have developed your own hobbies and identified the things that actually make you happy. You have realized that you don’t need someone to complete you. You are now independent and self-sufficient. You are the better version of yourself.

You should be thankful for those who took you for granted.

There are people who don’t know your worth. Thanks to them, you had to find the things you are best at and hone your natural skills. You excel, outshine, and outdo everyone else. You now know your actual worth and won’t let just anyone step on you. The next time someone puts you to the sidelines you know better than to just stand there and observe what they do when in fact you can create an output that’s so much better. You will now allow yourself to showcase your capabilities and make them realize how much worth you mean to them.

You should be thankful for anything that has molded you into what you are today.

Do not put the blame into others for whatever happened – or didn’t happen – to you. You should always see the good side in everything and always view the glass half-full. The key to happiness is how you see each and every single event in your life as a pivotal moment of an opportunity to be a better person. We should never think that attaining bliss is a ten-foot pole plight. We are given unlimited chances in life to be the better versions of ourselves but if we still think that, as of now, we are not what we want to be, then that just means there’s still an ample room for improvement. We should now be able to fight myriad battles for ourselves because that is also a process of self-development. With all the unfortunate events that have happened to us before, we should ask these things to ourselves whenever we feel outraged – what did I gain from this? How do I prevent this from happening again? What is the good thing that happened in spite of these problems? How do I turn this event around into a good encounter? What should I be grateful for? Instead of resenting someone and regretting the events in your life, learn how to evaluate and move on from these (unfortunate) events.

So, what about you? What are you thankful for?

The 5 Most Important Lessons We Learn When We’re Single

Weeeee! 🙂

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Being single can be a wonderful thing. Sure, at first it can seem scary and lonely, but once the initial sting wears off, you realize how incredible it can be. It’s during this time that we can learn some of the most valuable lessons.

1. Enjoy your own company.

Being single means that we have a lot more time to ourselves, and that is not a bad thing. It provides us time to discover the things we love, without the pressure of someone else nagging us.

2. Make yourself a priority.

It’s easy to forget about ourselves when we are in a relationship. We tend to put our significant other first, forgetting that we have needs, too. When you become single again, you learn that making yourself a priority isn’t selfish or self-absorbed; it’s self-preservation.

3. You are stronger than you think.

Yes, you can…

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Parallax Error, Disagreements, and How to Avoid Them

Do you remember the words parallax error from way back you were still studying science? Parallax error is the defined as, “An apparent change in the direction of an object, caused by a change in observational position that provides a new line of sight.”[1] In Layman’s terms, it is when you see something differently from varying angles. For example, a glass of water looks differently from the top view and from the side view. Additionally, a car’s headlights would look dissimilar from different angles. Things look differently from almost every angle of a single thing. If one individual would look at something differently from where you are seeing it, you will most probably have differing opinions on it.

You see, people develop misunderstandings, which later progress to arguments, through differences in opinion and view of things. You will probably not have a successful relationship with someone you have differing views and values in life with. That is the reason why you acquire friends, or even best friends, that you never pick fights with because you have the same understanding of how life should be. Running relationships is quite tricky, as you need to see everything eye-to-eye. You should always see to it that you always have the same points of reference so as you will be on the same page.

There is a reason why the origin (0,0) is defined in the coordinate plane. It is where everything starts so there will be uniformity in the units of distance. It is to avoid miscalculations in the given coordinates of a line or a graph or a figure – we would know where to start counting from. So how do we avoid inaccuracies in our own lives and relationships? Simple – always try to put your feet in the shoes of the other person/s. Do your best to understand his belief in things from his own point of view. Avoid achieving parallax error, as it will only constitute to a variation in opinions, which will be the cause of disagreement/s. Everything should be seen in the same level of view so everything would be seen from point A to point Z evenly.

[1] Definition obtained from http://www.thefreedictionary.com/Parallax+error

Let Love Make You A Better Person

This is probably the reason why I love being in relationships.

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Let love make you believe. Despite the suffering and brokenness, know that there are people who still hold on to hope. The goodness may not always be seen in the surface, but it will always find a way to emerge and overcome pain. It’s hard to find the good when you’re stuck between different battles, but when you are beaming with love for yourself, for your significant other, for your family and friends, it helps you to look at the world in a different light.

Let love be the most influential force in your life to make you and those around you, better. The kind that makes you share what you possess because you don’t want to see the people around you be deprived of what they deserve. Have a heart big enough that it influences other people to touch lives as well. It’s too often that the…

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All I Hear is Raindrops…

If you know the next line to these words, you’re:

A. One of those who were born in the 90s or earlier

B. A Tamia fan

C. Awesome.

I have always loved rain. As someone who loves writing, it is a way for me to elude the real world and drain all inspiration I have from my emotions and transform them into words. People become emotional when it’s raining probably because of the cool, gloomy feeling it exudes. It is also most likely the reason why it’s dubbed as “cuddle weather.” You get ardent, fervid, passionate. You crave for a presence that would fill you up with just a simple hug – which would mean a million – in this frosty, dismal setting of a day.

7 Pivotal Moments Of Every First Date

Hahahahah. Just had to share.

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1. The Initial Greet

You know, when you drive up to her house in that ’87 Chevy Caprice, knock politely on the door, and tell her father you’ll be back by 9, no funny business meet her outside the restaurant that has food but is mostly for drinks, and aren’t sure who is supposed to initiate the hug. How long is the hug supposed to last? Is this even a situation for a hug?

2. The First Joke

The key, I think, is to make a joke that isn’t too funny (you don’t want to create an impossible expectation), but gets the job done and is decidedly in your voice.

I went on a date once (why I am qualified to write this article), and while we were walking to the restaurant, I abruptly stopped at a Subway and noted that…

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